If U are not ready, don't settle down!

  It all happened yesterday as well as today where i was sleeping around 12.00am... then suddenly a shattered glass broke the midnight silence.... i was BERKO(means angry in Australian) as i was having a sweet dream.... then everything had gone all of a sudden...... u wanna know the cause?
  well thanks to my neighbours who were quarrelling all the way since morning.... then they started to fight, throw things and banged the door....... it caught my attention and i was curious to find out what had happened...... Then around 2.00am, 3 policemen arrived....... i was shocked as the couple( in their 20s) were still arguing when the police arrived..... i heard that the wife had complained of being beaten up by the husband and there were bruises on her arm.....
  honestly i was taken aback........ the couple had just married for 2 years and now they say they are going to divorce...... i was flabbergasted though...... anyway from my point of view, they should divorce as they were quarrelling since CNY...... all because of money money money......... so what i can conclude here is "NO MONEY NO LOVE"..... its quite true..... then couple of minutes ago, five policemen stood in front of my house...... guess what? my neighbour alerted the police again..... this time the story is a bit different.....
   The mother-in-law threw all her belongings outside including laptop and mobile phone..... she cried and she said she wanted to die..... How pitiful....... luckily now they are back to KL already..... huh.... the suspense is where the wife told the police that her husband wanted to kill her last night with a kitchen knife...... luckily the mother in law managed to stop him..... otherwise the wife could have been dead by now.....
    Anyway this  so called "drama" is a lesson to all the guys....... and towards me as well...... it is somehow true that without money, love won't last long........ in other words, there is no such thing as eternal love no matter how poor you are..... love won't last long that way..... you still need money.... love can't make you satisfied or contented with your current status or welfare..... besides, love can't keep you from hunger..... there is a chinese saying where " when a couple is deep in love, they won't mind drinking water to keep them full....." nah, that is just nonsense......
    i am not saying that money is that important until love is not important..... in fact, MONEY CANT BUY LOVE..... mark my word..... so personally i have learnt a lot since yesterday.... i came to realise that marriage is not as simple as it seems to be....... it can be stressful and tiring as well....... another thing is that people who cant support themselves shouldn't get married.... You cant expect someone else to take care of you if you can't even take care of yourself...... you will just add burden to your partner..... unless u are disabled..... that is a different story.....
   so what i must do in future is that i will only settle down after i have a stable job, a house, a car , and of course money..... i can't afford to "share" everything or depend on my spouse all the time..... i told myself that "I must be a good husband, son as well as a father...... well, what to do? i am a guy.... so i have to shelter many responsibilities as a man........ but what is more important is what my mum had always told me: "you must love your wife"..... ok i will keep that in mind. LOL but i am not bragging here..... it's just that i want to make sure that i won't regret later in life after i have lost someone important to me.... furthermore, i have only one life, so why not make it meaningful?
   I just feel sorry for my neighbours' child..... their two-year old son will have to gow up without acquiring equal love from both parents..... thats if his parents divorce now.... a broken family will affect a child psychologically and emotionally later in life...... as a result, the tendency for him to indulge in social problems is higher..... so honestly i just feel sorry for him..... (the toddler)
   But normally the guys are the ones whom should be blamed..... he was the one who make her pregnant.... so what to do? he had no other choice but to marry her..... young couple nowadays are just reckless...... haizzzzz too bad~~